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Ing edition f this book although there is a 1996 edition it really doesn t matter i feel like i ve found the holy grail i know y all s games bitches that means ima gonna win fuck yea eat my metaphoric insinuating uadruple entendre shortsno really i m learning some heavy shit about human relationships Games People Play has a good chapter about dealing with alcoholics but Berne s ideas and I do mean ideas about women and homosexuals are disgusting and sexist This book was published in the 1960s and it shows Scary to think modern psychologists might actually use it as a text Cómo ligar con esa chica que tanto te gusta y a la que le gusta otro or that college students would have to listen to Berne s ugly ideas about women and gays Nowadays we use research not ideas I found the general concept an interesting metaphor rather than a scientifically proven social reality However I struggled to finish the book It felt like a seriesf scribbled notes thrown together a set Death Threat of index cards with brief informationn games I needed further explanation and an attempt to engage me rather than having a series f ideas thrown before me Unconvincing pseudoscientific psychobabble In this book Berne argues that a lot f the behaviour you see around you every day can best be understood as different kinds f games A game is a pattern f behaviour usually involving two r perhaps three people There is a series f interactions followed by an emotional payoffOne f the things I found most interesting is that the classification has two dimensions First there s the game itself Second there s the uestion f how seriously you re playing he divides this into First Degree Second Degree and Third Degree First Degree is just playing for fun Second Degree means people s feelings can be badly hurt Third Degree means that the game ends up in the courts the hospital Satire or the morgueSo let me give you an example There s this game he calls RAPOne Deflower the Boss of the most appealing aspectsf the book is the witty labels he s made up for the different games First Degree RAPO is a game you can see being played at almost any party The first person most Hebrew magic amulets often a woman flirts with the second person mostften a man until he expresses some concrete sexual interest Then she frowns and moves n leaving him feeling like a bit f a jerk Her payoff is satisfaction that she s managed to discomfit him and reassurance that she has sexual power but it s basically harmlessIn Second Degree RAPO the first party leads the second party Being There on until again he s made some kindf advances Then she gets هذه بلادنا: الجواء openly indignant Maybe she tells him loudly to keep his handsff her Buddha's Brain: The Practical Neuroscience of Happiness, Love, and Wisdom or she phones her friends and says that he s such a lecherous creep Second Degree RAPO is a pretty nasty game because it isf course impossible for third parties to know whether the accusations are true r not Maybe the guy is just a lecherous creepIn Third Degree RAPO the first party may get as far as having consensual sex with the. Es to modern psychotherapy Discover how many f these secret games you play everyday f your life Iwfy If it weren't for you; Sweetheart; Threadbare; Harried; Alcoholic and many.

Games People play the psychology f human relationships 1966 Eric Berne Esmail Fassih translatorGames People Play The Psychology Witness to the Martyrdom: John Taylor's Personal Account of the Last Days of the Prophet Joseph Smith of Human Relationships is a bestselling 1964 book by psychiatrist Eric Berne In the first halff the book Berne introduces transactional analysis as a way f interpreting social interactions He describes three roles r ego states known as the Parent the Adult and the Child and postulates that many negative behaviors can be traced to switching r confusion f these roles He discusses procedures rituals and pastimes in social behavior in light f this method f analysis For example a boss who talks to his staff as a controlling parent will The War at Home: One Family's Fight Against PTSD often engender self abasedbedience tantrums r ther childlike responses from his employees The second half f the book catalogs a series f mind games in which people interact through a patterned and predicta I m glad I read it but it wasn t ultimately everything that I wanted it to be The theory at the beginning was absolutely fascinating and even though the books itself is from the 1960 s it has significant value for being the start f the field f transactional psychology However the description Ten Thousand Goddam Cattle: A History of the American Cowboy in Song, Story and Verse of the games themselves was where I found the book lacking Mostly this is where I also felt the impactf the book being so dated Some Set Theory, Logic and Their Limitations of his descriptionsf games were based n stereotypical gender behavior f that time but would not be accurate now nor would his analysis However I think that a lot could still be learned even from those games if he had gone into further analysis but he didn t He names the game goes through a brief write up but doesn t really delve in What I wanted was to get the description f the game see an example provided by an analysis then see an example f the antithesis with similar analysis Only The Stringbean Murders once does he provide an examplef an antithesis Possibly this analysis that was missing for me could be found in أساطير شعبية من قلب جزيرة العرب: الجزء الرابع other supplemental psychological textsr in a class discussion in which this book was assigned However for someone who is reading Stricken (Asphalt Cowboys, on theirwn for The Sporty Game only theirwn personal benefit it was lacking Still this is the historical beginning from which transactional theory arose and learning about transactional theory for the first time it was an incredible read This book is a fascinating psychological journey into the minds American Yakuza II of everyday people including and probably ESPECIALLY yourwn Berne s list Inventions That Changed the World: Working Wonders of psychological games we all play with eachther is fascinating as is what you learn about yourself by analyzing which games you tend to revisit regularlyOne little warning When you learn to recognize these games you will be forced to eliminate at least 95% Love Onboard: Cupid's Caribbean Cruise of the BS in your life and freuently find yourself disgusted by 100%f the BS in everyone else s That being said if you re Vertical Mind: Psychological Approaches for Optimal Rock Climbing on a uest for honest communication this book is indispensable i m currently reading the 1960 someth. The basic handbookf transactional analysisDr Eric Berne as the Blood Love originatorf transactional analysis has attained recognition for developing ne f the most innovative approach.

Second party She then calls the police and formally accuses him f rape Third Degree RAPO is fortunately not that common It s clear that it can easily destroy people s livesI thought it was insightful to point ut that all f these are essentially the same thing the difference is uantitative not ualitative I don t buy his analysis completely But if he doesn t succeed in alerting you to a least a couple f games you re playing without realising it then I really envy your ability to understand yourself and the things that motivate you This was apparently a very big thing when it was published in the 70s and I can see why It s a very interesting way f viewing the world Unfortunately like many psychology theories it takes what is a clever conceit that explains some dd aspects f human interaction and then tries to apply it to everything regardless f whether it fits DIY, Dammit!: A Practical Guide to Curse-Free Crafting or not Add in some very seventies thought processes which are ratherut f favor at the moment but the author probably thought f as universal without realizing how much was a product f the time and you end up with a rather dated if still interesting bookThe thesis is that whenever you see people engaged in repetitive interactions that appear to be negative they re probably getting something ut Civil rights, tool of communist deception of it subconsciously So while someone in a controlling relationship complains about how much their partner limits them they secretly both enjoy having something to complain about and are actually afraidf the thing they re being forbidden the reason they chose this partner in the first place is to have an excuse not to have to do the forbidden thing The book then goes n to identify a few dozen f these games Most Cutthroat of them are very familiar and it s a fruitful wayf examining interactions In applicable cases it not An Eastern Orthodox Response to Evangelical Claims only provides some reasonable explanations for behaviors that seem inexplicablen the surface getting to the root The Claiming of the Shrew of the gameffers a way to actually break the pattern If you re game playing to feed a deep desire trying to curtail the surface behavior without addressing the root Summoned of the desire will not be particularly effectiveHowever I think most modern psychologists would say that a numberf the games identified have root causes than this text makes ut The attempt to extrapolate the theory to apply to all behavior versimplifies things Just as bad a number f the bservations are deeply sexist racist andor homophobic very much products f the time Further there s an attempt to apply a Freudian framework that I m pretty sure has been mostly discredited by the scientific community in the intervening decades Every problem does not need to be classified as phallic ral Dead Inside or anal ReallySo it s an interesting work with some still applicable ideas Just don t try to apply them too hard smart Falls into the categoryf books that give you the secret reason for why things happen the way they do. A groundbreaking book that bores deep into the heart f all ur relationships GAMES PEOPLE PLAY is a classic that should be read again and again From the Trade Paperback editio.

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Eric Berne was a Canadian born psychiatrist best known as the creator of transactional analysis Eric was born on May 10 1910 as Eric Lennard Bernstein in Montreal CanadaHe and his sister Grace who was five years younger than Eric were the children of a physician and a writer David and Sara Gordon BernsteinDavid Bernstein died in 1921 and the children were raised by their motherBernstein